I was just talking about this with my friend the other night. He wants to go to Confession but was saying he doesn`t need it because he disagrees that certain actions are not really mortal sins, despite what the Church and Bible teach.
I think for some people they think they do not need the Sacrament. But for most, I think they are afraid. They are embarrassed by how much they are strayed, but as cradle Catholics are embarresed to tell the priest they do not remember how to make the Sacrament of Reconcilliation and may not know how to make a proper confession.
I think it would be useful for each of us to write a letter to our parish, asking the priests to hold a special Reconcilliation service for people who have not been to confession in a long time. That way the priests could be prepared in advance for confessions that might take a while. Also, the priests could discuss before how to make a proper confession and an explanation could be put in the Church bulliten to give people time to prepare.
I know some people also had negative experiences with Confession when they were young, and this has kept them away. I returned to Confession after many years away and it was such a blessing to me. God really was there in the Confessional with me! Some of our brothers and sisters need a good reminder, and some support, to help them take that step (literally) into the confessional.
I know the more I go to confession, the closer I feel to God, and the more aware I am of certain sins. It gives me the courage an strength to resist sin. I still fail, but not as often.