My boyfriend and I are engaged. We are both Catholics and want to be married at a Catholic Church. I was married to a non-Catholic before, and we didn’t get married in Church, I respected his believe. Fiancé was married before to a Catholic, therefore got married at a Catholic Church, and now is legally divorced.
When we started dating and I didn’t know that he needed to get an annulment for us to get married at Church, I felt in love with him. After a while of us dating he mentioned that he wanted to get re-married, ands said that he was going to get an annulment, time passed and he never requested the annulment until I gave him an ultimatum that I was going to leave him. We got engaged and he submitted paperwork for annulment after the engagement.
I want him to do the right thing. I believe that my first marriage didn’t work, because we didn’t follow Jesus’ teaching. Fiancé and I can’t proceed until his annulment is granted.
I am supposed to be making plans for my wedding, but I am not. I feel very disappointed with our engagement. I don’t feel happy about it. It is always one thing after another with his ex-wife too, I am an emotional roller-coaster.
I don’t want for us to move in together either, without being married. In several instances I wanted to end the relationship due to him still being married by the Church, but he doesn’t want to break up .
When I presented my point of view to his family, I didn’t get any support, they said he wants to have a family, just wait a little longer, his future is with you, go and move together and respect his believe.
But how long should I wait? What about if the annulment is not granted? What are we going to do then?
I don’t think that is it fair, but life is not fair sometimes. Years has passed and I am not getting any younger. I am very in love with him, but I feel that I pushing him to get married, and I don’t like the feeling of it.
Should I walk away from the relationship? Should I stay? How long annulment process takes in 2018? I heard that it is faster now.