I have a somewhat unique situation I’d like input on.
I met my current fiancee about 1 1/2 years ago over facebook, she is Brazilian and we started dating when she came to the States on a tourist visa over a year ago. Now, we’ve never lived together, but we have had pre-marital sex and used contraception (to both of which I’ve admitted in the sacrament of Confession and done penance).
She is baptized Roman Catholic but hasn’t received Confirmation. I fell in love with the Roman Catholic Church when I fell in love with her, and after talking with a minister, turns out I was actually baptized Roman Catholic too! Never raised in it, however. So at this point I’ve gone through RCIA and will receive my Confirmation and first Eucharist this Saturday.
Since I do want to marry her, and her me, and we want to raise a family together, I started a fiancee K-1 visa, which should lead to her coming to the United States later in the Fall/Winter this year. The issue is that this visa requires the beneficiary to marry within 90 days of entering the US, and this is not enough time for Catholic Marriage preparation. As such, my plan is to have a short Civil ceremony immediately just to start the process of her obtaining her permanent residence, and then going to talk to my local Catholic priest with her about marriage.
Another issue is that we will have to live together prior to being married in the eyes of the church. This is because 1. I cannot afford to rent a second place for her to stay, and she cannot work for a while after entering the US, and 2. Her English ability is getting better, but still very limited, and she would be incredibly lonely and without anyone if we were to live separately.
I understand that the Catholic church very much frowns upon co-habitation prior to marriage. How much of a problem would this be, given the circumstances surrounding it? Would it be grounds for refusal of the Sacrament of Matrimony?