I was pretty shameless in the dating game back in my youth. If you don’t get shot down now and then, you’re not trying. I used to go into girls’ dorms at your age (Catholic colleges mostly) and ask a likely looking one to talk, go for coffee, go out or whatever. Got a few eye rolls, but a lot of dates too. It’s amazing how almost anything works. And I’m not a handsome guy and wasn’t then. If a girl turned me down, I would ask her if she had a friend who “wasn’t already in love”. Almost 100% of the time, the friend would go out with me. (Send a girl to find a girl. They know who they all are, and they know who’s attached and who’s not.) Pretty ones too.
I met my wife at a Republican election night watch party. I was a Democrat then, and worked the election, but not being entirely stupid, I figured the Repubs would have better food, (always true) and besides, back then Repub girls dressed nice and had good manners, where so many Dem girls had long, stringy hair, wire spectacles, wore army jackets and such and swore like sailors.
(Not saying the Dems were all like that. I met one of the sweetest girls I have ever known, and pretty too, at a Dem event. That was when Dems weren’t pro-abortion. But you have to improve your odds if you can.)
There are a LOT of young women who are political workers around election time, and they still go to the watch parties. I would still advise Repubs. Go volunteer for some very, very prolife candidate as a worker. You’ll meet prolife girls there, I guarantee it. Keep in mind that there are more of them than there are of us. And if you think YOU would like to meet Miss Right, can you imagine how much more THEY are looking for Mr. Right, with that biological clock ticking? (sorry ladies, turn your heads if you don’t want to hear this stuff, but the OP is a guy, after all)
By the way, my wife and I couldn’t stand each other when we first met. She was making smart remarks about my “line” with other girls. But she was beautiful, and clever too. I took her aside and asked her not to do it. I just told her frankly that she was messing up my courting, and that it was unfair of her to do it. She agreed, on the condition that I be honest. I promised I would. On impulse, I asked her if, forever after, she would be my friend and confidante; one with whom I could always discuss anything, and be honest. She agreed upon condition that I would be her friend and confidant as well. Neither of us was ever really interested in anybody else after that agreement. Right then, I knew I loved her and wanted to marry her. When you get right down to it, that’s what most folks are looking for in a mate.
One last thing and I’ll stop. Your faith life and hers are a mutual undertaking, and it’s a job. A true confidant will accept a few imperfections on the part of the other, even in that. Life’s a long road at 20. It’s not the perfection of the woman, it’s her heart. If she’s good-hearted and fundamentally Catholic, she’ll want you to lead in your mutual faith life, as long as you’re an example, not a lecturer. If she’s Catholic at all, she’s going to want your children to be Catholic and to be moral, and she’ll know the male parent is the major influence in that. That’s a big deal with women. She doesn’t want a preacher. She wants a role model for the family she knows she wants. Have an understanding heart yourself, my friend, and you’ll find what you’re looking for.
And for goodness sake, be of good cheer! You’re only 20, and girls can’t stand it when a guy is a downer. They want YOU to make THEM feel better! That’s your job and your duty, your whole life long. Learn it!
(Now all the ladies can throw rocks at me. But it’s all the truth.)