Thank all of you in sharing your wisdom so generously.
I am the official godmother of this child and was present at his baptism. The Monsignor Chancellor of the Diocese is a personal and profession friend of mine, and he said my role was permissible as long as the godfather, another friend, was Catholic, which he is. He is not in close contact with my friend or his godson anymore. My friend’s husband, the boy’s father, is not Catholic, although I believe he is silently Christian if that makes any sense.
I know a good deal about Catholic theology and tradition, in fact probably even more in depth than my friend, the boy’s mother. She struggles with Christianity in general and told me I was better able to raise him Catholic than she is.That is probably true, as strange as it may seem. Nonetheless, I am not as familiar with details of specific Catholic rituals as I am with the theology itself.
I know I am not to partake the Eucharist, and I am respectful of that fact, since I don’t meet the Church’s requirements.
I will ask my friend about gifts, etc., but I wanted to have some objective input first, and you all have provided that. I think a Catholic Bible and a personal note (which will not matter to him now, but may be meaningful to him someday), is my first choice as long as he doesn’t already have one.
The family is financially secure, so they do not need my help in that area.
My final request of all of you is that I am able to be some sort of a bridge to faith for both my friend and my godson. I hope this event will provide an opportunity to talk with her about faith–which has always been an uncomfortable subject between the two of us–because she has a deep-seated, knee-jerk hostility toward “religious” people and those who are socially conservative and pro-life, as I am. She has said in the past that she does not believe in the atonement of Christ. Maybe she’s never really seriously contemplated the subject, and I’d like to explore it with her in a Socratic, non-judgmental way. It’s hard to get started on the subject, though, when a person says that. One of her best friends is Jewish, so she tends to want to go down the rabbit trail of the “arrogance” and exclusivity of Christianity in order to avoid a real conversation.
In addition, I believe my godson has a very mild form of autism, which makes it hard to have meaningful, personal discussions with him, even though he is a smart child. I think this will improve as he grows up.
If you think it can’t get any weirder or more difficult than this, add in to the mix the fact that my friend and I are both lawyers. So that’s why I need additional prayer support !
For the purpose of your prayers, my godson’s name is Conor, and I’d rather not give his mother’s name.
Blessings to all of you,