My twin sons are in “preparation” for first Holy Communion, and the Mass they are have scheduled this for is starting to personally scare me. I honestly do not believe I can be a part of this and I am considering taking my children out of it.
I have been unhappy with the entire process, and so was already uncomfortable. To be brief, the classes have been useless, filled with error and those administering it have been very critical regarding every family’s participation and involvement. And now it has been disclosed that the kids will be doing everything in the Mass. They will be expected to read, carry up the gifts, sing songs in the choir (I think this part may be other children than those receiving first communion though), read the prayers, and so on. It is ridiculous.
My first problem is that I think the children should be allowed to focus on what they are doing in receiving the Body and Blood of our Lord. Why should they have to think about reading from the Bible, or doing any other sort of job? Isn’t your first time receiving Communion enough? I have been told, though, that this will be a “children’s liturgy” which means the kids have to do these things. It also means that nothing will be done to any proper standard, as I know from experience. Our regular Masses are packed with abuse from start to finish, but this goes too far for me. I simply cannot sit through a mockery of our Lord in that way. I hate children’s Masses and we intentionally do not attend them, and I resent being forced to do so now. The parish, as I see it, is using my children as tools in extorting me into participation in something I morally and ethically oppose.
Right now I have to say that this situation has begun to tear my faith to the core. I cannot receive communion, or participate in any sacrament, as I feel utterly isolated from the Church. I don’t trust the priests here, and I don’t trust the parishes. I want my children to have their first Communion, but I don’t like this process at all. This Mass is a circus entirely focussed on celebrating the people in the pews and patting each other on the back for being such progressive minded believers, and it has nothing to do with Communion itself. We are supposed to make a mockery of the Mass and then applaud everybody for doing it, and I just don’t think I can do that. If I cannot find some way out I really don’t think I can continue in any way with the process.
I am posting not to rant, though I know I cannot help but do so when I comment on what I am going through in this. Instead, I am hoping somebody can help me with information and advice. How bound am I to any of this which has been put in front of me as required for my children’s first Holy Communion? Do I have to take them to this particular Mass? Are they required to receive their first Communion from their parish priest, or can they receive at any parish like any Catholic? At which point are my children considered prepared, and who technically decides this? Basically, what are the rules about first Holy Communion as opposed to Communion?
I hate this process and it is truly making mincemeat of me. It has been the most uncatholic and unchristian undertaking I have ever been involved in. I am actually physically sick in thinking of it, and I really do not think I can sit through this Mass they are currently being required to be at. But, as this has been sprung on us only a month from the date I am not sure what I can do short of simply dropping out altogether. I will surely do that if I have to, but I really don’t want to if I can avoid it. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.