I’m a relatively new Catholic (was baptized last year). My first love was actually the person who led me to Christ. If I had never met him, there’s no way I would have become Catholic. We are no longer together and I absolutely trust that this is indeed God’s will. My current situation is the following: I’ve been approached by guys who are interested in dating me but I always inevitably turn them down because I compare them to my first love and they all fall short. I don’t know why I do this (it’s almost like a natural instinct) and I have prayed to God for a healthier, comparison-free attitude. Even though I feel called to marriage, I don’t think I will ever actually find a husband at this rate because I know I should be reserving my whole heart for my future husband. I wonder whether anybody has had a similar experience and can offer some strategies to overcome this hurdle? Essentially, my mind has learned to let go but I think my heart has yet to catch up.