Hello everyone! My first post on this subject was just a little over 2 years ago. You have been helpful through this process and now the following is an update as well as some questions.
Just to re-cap, my then boyfriend in 08’ (now husband) filled out the paperwork to receive a decree of nulity in April 08’. It took a little over 2 years and my husband received a letter from the Tribunal stating that in July, 2010, that the nullity has been judged as proven in the eyes of the church. I have many a question so please be patient
First question is the letter makes no sense to me and maybe I can get some input here on this forum. It says exactly “This letter is formal notification that the Rev. Judges of the Tribunal have handed down an AFFIRMATIVE decision and the nullity of your previous marriage has been judged as proven in the eyes of the church, HOWEVER, the judges request that a marriage assesment and counseling sessions take place before you plan a Catholic marriage or convalidation” Ok, I understand that part and know that it is not uncommon for this type of request BUT then, the letter continues and says “Your involvement in the Readiness Marriage Assesment does not automatically indicate permission for remarriage and there shall be no plans on your part for a Catholic marriage or convalidation until you have received a FINAL AND FAVORABLE decision from the Tribunal” NOW I’M CONFUSED? Isn’t this letter stating that the decree was granted in the first sentence?
Second question. We both have been non-practicing Catholics (me longer than my husband). My husband filled out the paperwork to possibly get a decree of nullity in April 08’ so if we both decided to go back to the church and marry, it would not be an issue. We were married in a civil ceremony in December 09’. Now, in the church’s eyes, we are living in sin BUT we have attended mass and started a couple months ago (we do not go to communion). We have received a letter from the church we attend asking us to become members. My question is if we become members during this process of counseling to see if we will get the FINAL AND FAVORABLE decision, won’t it look bad cause we are living in sin (civially married) or will they see it as a good thing that we are serious about returning to the church and making things right?
I apoloigize that this post is long, for I need some advise as well as some light on my confusion in the Tribunal letter.