My dh and I have always had communication issues. We have been married 4 years and are really at a breaking point. This has been a really tough, emotional year and he feels unloved and unappreciated and so do I. We are total opposites when it comes to just about everything and while that is probably what brought us together in a way, it’s what is driving us apart.
Recently I have been reading “The Power of a Praying Wife” and just started the “Five Love Languages.” I took the Five Love Languages quiz and scored highest for Words of Affirmation and Quality Time. My dh is pretty good about words of appreciation when I do something he asks me to do but not on everyday things. He can also say pretty hurtful things sometimes and always says that I just take it wrong.
I am going to have my dh take the quiz tonight but I suspect he will score highest for Physical Touch and Quality Time. And, while I guess thats good that we both want quality time to feel loved, because we are so opposite, we still struggle with showing our love this way. So what happens is he shows his love by being affectionate, which unfortunately I’m not, and I tend to show my love by doing Acts of Service which I didn’t even score high on…
So my question is, is it possible to want to recieve love in a language but tend to show your love in a whole different language? Hopefully this is covered in the book but I haven’t got past the first couple of pages yet!!