Women, in general, have a built in propensity to try to meet EVERYONE’S needs before their own. This leads to them not having any time or energy to meet their most basic needs. It often leads to them feeling, exhausted, angry, resentful, and overwhelmed! That’s when they morph from the loving, kind mommy, they dreamed of being, into Super B*%ch. While we need our Husbands to call us on our bad behavior, We rarely welcome it. I would ask her why she’s acting out, and let her vent! Sometimes our fears about life, are much worse than the reality. Stating our worst fears often greatly dimishes their intensity. Let her know you support her meeting her needs, and want to help her feel better! Talking about it may help bring her stress level waaaay down.
Women often feel every thing is out of control, when there are too many issues they are dealing with simultaneously. Like how computers used to slow down or even stop working when too many window where open at the same time. Men are generally good at compartmentalizing life. Women aren’t. Are there many stressors hanging over her head? Things needing to get done? Offer to help close some of those windows by, ie fixing the car, taking over an issue with the kids…, doing a chore, or assigning them to the children…
Knowing you support her, and forgive her for being witchy, will go a long ways towards helping her decide to do better! She needs to hear that things will get better! She needs to hear that you will work together to make things better. She needs HOPE.
Also if she has truely mistreated the children verbally, or other wise, I would encourage her to ask for their forgiveness. This will help to heal their relationship, and also drive home to her heart that, despite being imperfect, She needs to be a good example, respectful, and loving to her children! She’ll like herself much better, when She is
I will pray for you! May God bless, and lead your efforts to heal your family. May God give you the words, and proper attitude to deal with this in a loving manner. May God give you all repentant hearts. May God send your family abundant Graces!