I have a big dilema. I don’t have any relationship with more than 1 person I know who really practices 100% of their Catholic faith or at least tries to the best of their knowledge. Almost everyone else, both friends and family, falls short of a full practicing Catholic. These people are all baptized, confirmed etc., but the main offense with most of the people I know is that they do not attend church every week. My infant’s baptism is coming up soon and I haven’t picked a godmother. The candidate we were thinking of is a family member and family order would say that she is the next person in line to be the godmother. I honestly don’t think she would make a good godmother. She had her tubes tied and lived with her husband before marriage among other things. Should I chose someone else who may not be 100% in line with the church, but is closer to the church. Should I pick the lesser of two evils?
Another option I was thinking of was to chose the godmother of our first child, who is a good practicing Catholic. Chosing this person twice will cause a lot of grief in the family, but I feel it is the moral thing to do. What is the right thing to do here? Thanks in advance.