[quote=Paris Blues]I must be either very scrupulous or either too worried about my first Confession of what not to say and what to say to confess.
Wouldn’t it be a good idea to just list some things that are to be said or not so that I and others who aren’t too clear about what to confess can have a better idea and feel relaxed for once?
For example: like you could list you don’t have to confess blinking your eyes. You have to confess lusting at someone, etc.
Actually, a HUGE list would help!
I have struggled with srupulocity in the past and really, such a list will only increase your struggle with scrupuloscity. I would suggest telling your priest that you are scrupulous. Then when you go to confession with him, he will be able to help you in the confessional. BUT YOU MUST DO EVERYTHING HE SAYS if he is a good and orthodox priest. If he tells you your confession is finished, then it is finished. Even if you don’t think so. If he tells you not to confess something, then you must not confess it. If he tells you that you must go to communion, then you must go to communion, regaurdless of whether or not you agree. This is the only way to overcome scrupulocity. My suggestion for a person with scrupulocity is to only confess those things that you are 100% sure and would swear on a bible that they are mortal sins. Otherwise, don’t confess it. In most people’s cases they should confess if they are not sure about a particular sin. But in the case of the scrupulous person, this can make matters worse, and it would be a shame to see scrupuloscity destroy a person’s spiritual life. Therefore, you situation is unique and should be treated uniquely. TELL YOUR PRIEST HOW SCRUPULOUS YOU ARE IN CONFESSION, AND THEN DO EVERYTHING HE TELLS YOU TO DO. But make sure your confessor is both orthodox and loving.