I seem to have a problem attracting men whom I’m not at all interested in, and sadly they don’t take no for an answer. The majority of men who I attract are black (I’m white). and I’m just not attracted to black men (or anyone who isn’t white) but they’re attracted to me and my rearend :(.
I’m a really nice person, but it’s very frustrating to have men who won’t take my kind “No, I’m not interested” seriously and they keep bothering me!
I have one guy who is signifcantly older than me who ran into me at school in the hall 3.5 years ago. I was nice to him and the next thing I knew he was persisting on us going out and dating because he felt we had “a strong chemistry”. I kindly told him no, and that I wasn’t interested, and over the months he kept bothering me in the halls persisting. School finally ended and I figured I’d lost him. Nope, when school started again he noticed me in the library and started insisting again. I tried to nicely explain to him that I wasn’t interested, that I didn’t feel the same “chemistry” he felt, that I was very tied up with school and life, etc, and he left me alone for the year. Now today, in my home city in the mall this random black guy stopped me, and he said I looked familiar, and asked me if I was from X. I realized who he was, and didn’t want to go through the whole not taking no for an answer again, so I lied to him and said no. Then he asked me my name and introduced himself. I lied again and gave him a fake name. He then asked me if I was single, not liking where this was going, I lied again and told him no. He asked if I was married, and I lied to him again, and told him I was “in a serious committed relationship” lest he try to convince me to give him a chance.
I feel bad about lying, and I know it’s a sin, but I don’t know what else to do without releasing my uncharitable wrath. :shrug: Sometimes I luck out and men try to pick me up when I’m with my dad, and he gets rid of them for me :D.
What do you ladies do to get rid of persistent men who just don’t take no for an answer?
PS: Calling the police isn’t really an acceptable option for me unless I’m in danger. They have far more pressing matters to deal with than getting rid of every man who won’t leave me alone.