This is a better job at conveying your position.
It happens to get too deep for me to reply to everything. Especially because I only have a smart phone…
I will say, that my personal story is very close to these issues, and you are probably aware.
One thing I will say, is that I am not judging or rejecting my wife, though I have hurt her with my faults. But it isn’t fair to say only my faults have contributed to an unreconciled state. But my lack of Holy love and sinful nature has allowed harm into our Marriage.
I am not the cause of her faults and she is not the cause of my faults. Our faults are from within us. But we have a privilege to love each other and build each other up. And that happens by relying on Jesus. I need Jesus and she needs Jesus.
I have done things she would never do, and she has done things I would never do. And they both contribute to our faults manifesting into disappointment and distrust.
I know I can never give my body for another person, and if I do, I need to Reconcile by the power of Jesus, with remorse and repentance. And even if I do, there are consequences because my wife does not follow Jesus to the point of loving me. And that is not my fault. But I haven’t taken her sins with forgiveness either.
So I will continue to fight the good fight, and hopefully not lose battles. But my Spirit if willing to follow the Teachings of our Lord. And His laws cannot be compromised, only forgiven if trespassed.