Housing costs vary greatly by State and towns within the State. I live in NY and what a house and apt cost me in Upstate NY would be considered free compared to those living in and around New York City.
Some people have no choice in the matter of how much % it consumes - assuming they want some sort of roof over their heads. These folks make adjustments in other aspects of their daily lives.
That being said - only you know what is appropriate within your budget and what your risk tolerance is.
The banks with their supposed revised and more “conservative” lending practices should also give you an indication on what they are willing to allow in credit.
Is 25% or 35% of net or gross prudent? I think you need to look at your financial picture as a whole.
Do you have other debt? Do you have a high standard of living where you need the latest gadgets and other things? How’s the retirement account and savings account?
Just be sure to do a well thought out budget ahead of time factoring in maintenance, and your other daily required expenses - food, utilities, transportation, clothing, etc…
If it’s an honest and accurate assessment you may have a clearer answer.