Ok, sorry about the blunt thread title, but at least I’ve gotten your attention!
**This is a rather explicit sexual question and not one asked for prurient reasons. If you are offended by it, then don’t read on.
So, I’m trying to live in accordance with the Magisterium, but I’m having difficulty finding information on a rather delicate subject - foreplay. My understanding heretofore had been that anything is permissible so long as it leads to intercourse (btw, we *are *talking within marriage, in case you’re wondering) To that end, I sometimes allow my wife to use her hand to stimulate me sexually, but not to the point of ejaculation. I consider that the “cut-off” point, for want of a better term. My question is this: is it the case that pretty much anything permissible as foreplay so long as it is not in and of itself intrinsically disordered and an objective sin? I have asked a priest in confession and he has is of the opinion that so long as there is no ejaculation, then manual stimulation of the genitals is permissible; ejaculation is only permissible where the act is open to the transmission of life. I’m reading this to mean that as long as there is no ejaculation, and no otherwise sinful action in the foreplay, then go for it, whatever floats your boat. However, I’ve been reading some opinions lately which hold that even manual stimulation is sinful, and that pretty much nothing except the deed itself is permissible. The question is, what, if anything, does the Church say? Is non-ejaculatory foreplay permissible?