your husband sounds like a jerk. sounds like he’s always been a jerk. why do you think, now after 49 years of jerk-dom that he might be willing or able to forgive?
he’s also a liar. he says you can’t do anything right. but you did. you raised three kids alone. you quit gambling.
whatever it is you want from this guy, you’re not going to get. direct your energies into God-centered, life-affirming, community-building endeavors. don’t discuss. don’t argue. don’t defend yourself. there’s no satisfactory conclusion with him.
pray for his salvation.
i’m glad your dr. son is no longer practicing in-vitro technologies.