What does it mean to truly forgive? In the case of divorce does it mean that reconciliation is sought? Is it true forgiveness if one spouse refuses to reconcile a marriage especially with children involved?

Forgiveness and reconciliation are two different things. Forgiveness means that you let go of the anger you feel toward the person that hurt you and you are able to wish them well or at least not wish them harm. Reconciliation is an effort to restore the relationship you had with the person, which is certainly desirable, but not always possible. Forgiveness is accomplished by the effort of one party, but reconciliation requires both parties and if the person that’s caused harm to the relationship is unremorseful or unmotivated to change, then reconciliation is not going to happen.

You are hurting. You are reaching out here telling your story on several threads. I suggest you sit down with your pastor and get some counsel. We here on an internet forum cannot help you heal.

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From Resentment to Forgiveness may be of help

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