I find myself angry at someone who has, to my mind, caused harm to and mistreated someone dear to me. Does this fall in the category of ‘forgiveness?’ I always think of forgiveness as something the actual victim of the harm does, something between the victim and perpetrator. It’s always seemed a little odd to me for someone to stand up and ‘forgive’ a person for an action that had nothing to do with the ‘forgiver.’ It seems presumptuous, as if it just dismisses the person actually affected by the behavior, with a ‘never mind him, I forgive you,’ sort of attitude.
Is there a different word or concept for dealing with my own dislike of this person, while acknowledging that ‘forgiveness’ is between the two of them? Or am I also called to forgiveness in some sense in this case?