I received annulment paperwork in the mail a few weeks ago and have been considering the different ways to respond, including the option of silence.
I am not a Catholic, but she was raised with strict Catholic parents. Our marriage was blessed by the church, even though we married for the wrong reasons (pregnancy). We stayed married for several years full of neglect, drug abuse, and infidelity on her part. I was also neglectful because I adapted to the unhealthy environment and enabled her instead of seeking professional help.
My hesitation in signing the annulment is that she has manipulated the children and others with devastating false claims. Also, she tends to “find religion” when it suits her needs. Currently, that seems to be to please her parents to whom she lives with and her “spiritual advisor”, who has been referred to as a ‘sugar daddy’ to others (oh, but she was only joking!). Many suspect that she is looking for husband #4, and if her eye is on this “advisor”, an annulment will be in order so that they may marry in the church.
She has been married 2 other times since our divorce, and professionals have indicated their concern of her stability - which is why I have primary custody of the children (in which I make sure they attend Catholic church and Sunday school on a regular basis while in my care).
She also made a financial statement to the courts that she donates $XXX to the church every month, but has not contributed to the financial or medical needs of our children.
Do I hold my tongue and put my faith in God, or do I speak the truth to the annulment committee?