As far as protestant acceptance of divorce, it just depends what you want to believe. I've read books that condem it for any reason, allow it only for adultury, and so on. That's one of the reasons I became Catholic....I didn't know who's interpretation was the right one, yet everyone of them claimed to be biblical. The bottom line is that no sin is too great to be forgiven. If God forgives someone for a failed marriage, then it seemed sensible that I should too.
I know I'll need to find a Priest to discuss this matter with in more detail. But in the mean time;
My wife was married and committed adultery, but then she repented and tried hard to make her marriage work. Eventually, she was forced to get a divorce. She has suffered from her past sin, and has come to forgive herself and accept God's forgiveness for her failed marriage. (that's how protestants handle sin)
I met her a few years after her divorce. As a protestant I had no real problem with her divorce. It was a past sin that had been resolved and I felt that it would be wrong to hold her past against her. Neither of us was making a decision against our conscience.
After I became Catholic, I started to look at the sacrament of marriage more closely and started to wonder how my marriage fits into all this.
I agree about a comment that the Priest should have been more concerned about it, but I got the impression that I didn't need to worry about her past marriage. The fact is, even Priests make mistakes and sometimes teach us incorrectly about the Church's teaching. It seems like there's a lot of cleanup to do before I can clear the slate in my life and feel that I'm truly living free of sin. Most people can just go to confession and start from scratch. I feel as if my life is stained until my wife and I have a valid marriage. But what if I find out that our marriage is invalid and can't be rectified because of something she did in her past? Is it possible that the only way I can truly live holy would be to tell my wife we can no longer sleep together because of her previous marriage? I suspect she would not understand.
Sorry to express so much here. But it helps to get my thoughts out to people who can pray and share their thoughts. Thank you.