[quote=Madaglan]About a year ago one of the priests I know was talking to the Newman Club to which I belong. He informally spoke about all the different guys and gals who come to him wanting to get married, and how he had to explain to them the waiting period before getting married during which the soon-to-be married must undergo a certain course.
In any case, Fr. X mentioned, to my suprise, that he saw nothing wrong with an engaged (though not yet married couple) to live and copulate with each other (they’re going to be married anyhow!..at least that’s what it sounded like he was saying). I’m not sure if the Fr. was joking, or if he was serious about giving his blessings to this sort of activity. Could someone please explain to me if this is horribly wrong?
In our case, we had been married by a judge and already had three children, and our pastor chose not to require us to live separately before we got our marriage blessed. That may not be completely orthodox, but this pastor, retired now, can hardly be considered “liberal” by any stretch. If I recall correctly I he explained that he could have required it but he had the authority to grant leeway depending on the particular circumstances.
In the context you presented this, it is very surprising. Whether or not he thinks it’s wrong, it would seem like he has a duty to teach what the Church teaches anyway.
To the question “wrong in all cases” I’m not sure I can answer that but it sounds like your question is really “OK in all cases if engaged” to which I’d vote no, but love to hear a theologian try to defend. (Defend the teaching, not the sinner, of course.)