Maybe that 5% are missing the message then. Instead of looking down and judging they should look at it with love - and look at it as a way to learn how to evangelize to the other 95% unless they honestly believe that only kids that walk, talk, and act like them deserve to be Catholic.
you've presented the framework of a very false dichotomy.
for the sake of clarity-- my oldest kids were born to a single mother (me), the first one when i was 17.
he, especially, was born in a very inner city hospital (in 1980, they would have called it a ghetto.) he was raised in an inner city neighborhood and schooled in one of the state's focus schools, which has since ultimately failed and closed its doors. when he was nearly 10, we moved, improved and started homeschooling.
in this little country town where we live, kids called my son a word that starts with WH and rhymes with trigger. (till rap became king.)
it's that kid, and then his brothers, who thought Fr Stan the Rapping priest was inauthentic and pandering.