[quote="jnewaz, post:19, topic:250022"]
While (as I said in my earlier posts) I think "french kissing" does have a place along the journey a couple takes before they reach the altar, I do understand that it can be a gateway to unchaste behavior and sin.
That's how I feel about the subject. There have been things I've done with a girl that I have felt the need to confess, and others that I didn't because I thought I was truly "in love". Its a process, and I learn more after each relationship. I learn the limits of my own conscience, but I am not going to blindly restrict myself from all romance simply out of fear of being unchaste. I believe God has an optimistic view of sexuality, and that view is echoed by the Pontiffs. As for kissing before marriage, like I said, it can exist, it can be useful, it can develop the relationship that you want to eventually take "all the way". So long as it does not involve the sharing of your body in a way that belongs solely to your married spouse.
Thats what I believe, and as far as I can tell, I believe that this is in line with the Church's teachings. If the Pope would say otherwise, and specifically teach that kissing is prohibited outside of marriage. I would still be a Catholic teenager, albeit significantly more bored.
I refer you to my posts above. I do not see French kissing as something one who is unmarried is to do..
Yes God has a very optimistic view of sexuality..as does of course the Church. The problem is with the results of the fall...via concupscience (which brought a great weakness in area that needs be countered by virtue) and also personal and cultural sin...which is a grave distortion of the that optimistic view.
I do not say..nor does the Church teach that kissing is prohibited outside of marriage...though of course one still needs to approach it with serious evaluation.
Chaste kissing can be good (taking into consideration what is outlined in the first link I posted from the theology dept at EWTN)
But we are not here speaking of the "kissing of affection" of the unmarried.
French kissing is kissing with the tongue...it is more suited to foreplay of the marital act (if engaged in at all) ....
Here is by the way the response of one of the Catholic Answers Apologists:
As for the other links I gave you to the addresses of the Pope at WTD...take one a week..or one a day..they are not too long and they are great...do not wait :)