Hi there! So I suffer from a lot of scrupulosity and I’m pretty sure this is another one of those cases, but I want to confirm it and maybe these questions will help in the future. So last Friday I abstained from meat as a Friday penance, but out of need to catch up on sleep and out of laziness, I slept from 2 in the morning until 1:30 pm. I abstained from meat and also stayed away from sweets just because I felt like it would be kind of against the spirit of things to stuff myself with a bunch of deserts. Often, I break the abstinence at or after midnight and feel fine about that, but since I got up so late I felt like I should probably continue it through. Anyway, shortly after midnight, I bit into a Milky Way bar and felt like that was kind of against the spirit of the abstinence. I know it’s technically not against the letter of the law because I wasn’t technically abstaining from sweets anyway, and it was Saturday technically as well, but still I felt bad. That night (after midnight so technically Saturday morning), I said a Chaplet of Divine Mercy. The following Saturday, I wondered if I should do almost a make-up penance, so I said a Rosary, and Sunday, I called a friend whom between we had some tension, and tried to resolve things between us. I know this is odd because it’s like I’m trying to do my Friday penance days later, but what do you guys think? Am I being scrupulous or was this honorable to be kind of doing make-up penances?
At the core of my question is this: is following the letter of the law, but breaking the spirit of the law a sin? and would it invalidate your penance? Also, does what I did sound like breaking the spirit of the law? and if so, should I feel worried about kind of “making up” that penance?
Also, I’ve always been confused by this: can your Friday penance substitute be pretty much anything charitable/penitential? Or should that substitute be an act equal to or greater than the act of abstaining from meat?
I know that’s a lot of questions. Thanks for any help!