I have a friend who is in a bit of a mess, but is open to advice. I am talking to people I trust gathering their perspectives, but wanted to post here too to obtain some feedback.
My friend has been married for 20 years, has two children, and until a few years ago was devout and some would even say square. He and his wife were faithful to each other, good parents, and had never been with anyone else physically, before or after marriage. His wife then fell in love with her boss and had a one year affair, until he found out about it. Obviously he was devastated. I don’t know that anyone realized exactly how devastated he was though.
He tried to make it work and do what he thought he was supposed to do, but clearly there was a ton of pain and probably unforgiveness there under the surface. He pretty much snapped. He met a woman who he then moved in with and now she is pregnant. She is poor and scared of the implications of having the child and has made it clear to him that if he was not around she would abort the child.
He is now trying to put his life back together, but feels very muddled about where his moral duty lies. He feels like he is caught between a rock and a hard place. And strangely enough he is still furious at his wife and feels like his marriage was over when she went off with another man.
I have my own thoughts on what he should do, but I am curious about what you think church teaching says he should do.