One of my friends frequently commits a certain mortal sin which consequently often keeps him from receiving Communion. Recently he has begun insisting that he must get to Confession the same day he commits this sin, in order that he may receive Communion the next time he goes to daily Mass, which we frequently go to. I view this behavior as a sign of scrupolosity setting in. Gently, I have reminded him that he doesn’t need to go to Confession immediately, as long as he has a plan to go to Confession regularly. Moreover, I have mentioned that, if we happen to go to a daily Mass before he has gone to Confession, he can just abstain from Communion until the next time he has confessed.
Today, in response to my telling him this, he told me that it “bothers” him that he belongs to a faith where, if he “falls once,” he is “excluded from” the very heart of our faith, which he identifies as receiving Communion. I was unable to take him to Confession immediately today, so he insisted on paying over $30 for a round trip journey with Lyft so that he can make it to Confession before All Souls Mass later today.
But there’s an additional problem with this behavior: his income cannot afford a regular expense of this kind, and moreover he does not have a Lyft-compatible cellphone. I let him use mine, but now I’m wondering if I should have done so. I see this new development as a sharp turn towards serious scrupulosity, and, in the future, assuming he does this again, I am not sure I should let him use my phone to order Lyfts. I wonder if I am just enabling this new, seriously scrupulous and financially irresponsible behavior. I have asked him to talk to a priest about it, but if he keeps it up, should I continue letting him use my phone to spend inordinate amounts of money on Lyft trips for unnecessary quests for immediate absolution? And how should I deal with his new sense of being “bothered” and feeling “excluded” and blaming it on the faith? Any thoughts?