I didn’t know where to put this so if it needs to be moved feel free to do so. I’ve recently reconnected with an old friend from grade school. We’ve been emailing each other back and forth. She’s had a lot of tough times since graduating highschool. She revealed to me she had an abortion in college. She said she was an alcoholic at the time, the father was a jerk and “it was better off”. She said her mom “helped” her during that time or she didn’t know how she’d get through it. She’s Catholic, we made our first communion together.
We are supposed to be meeting for lunch this weekend and I have several prolife bumper stickers on my car. I took a long time thinking out my response, I tried to respond as gently as possible and gave her the link to Project Rachel. I did warn her about the bumper stickers incase she sees them on my car. She also mentioned she’s on the pill even though she hasn’t dated in five years. She’s tried to come off it but has panic attacks when she does (irrational fear of pregnancy stemming from the abortion I would guess.)
She’s in such a bad place right now. She’s out of work, in danger of losing her house -she’s trying to sell it but in this MI economy no one is buying. I don’t want to push her a way or make her feel judged. I did (with some humor) explain where I am at in my life as far as being a very “fervant” Catholic and that we use NFP and it works. I hope I handled it ok. Haven’t heard back yet but I just sent it a little bit ago.
Any advise or suggestions on how I could help her or how to proceed?