As a Catholic, I try to witness and evangelize in ways that seem best for whoever I am interacting with. I have a friend who is a former ordained Lutheran minister. We have a lot in common as far as past relationships go, painful experiences that brought us back to God and more.
I have share a great deal about my experiences with him, he is kind of a new friend. We talk a lot about theology and so on. He probably knows more about Catholicism than most non Catholics, and even some practicing Catholics. He is in a common law marriage right now, and his live in girlfriend / common law wife has some issue with getting married, I don’t know what it is.
Lately he has been getting closer to what I think of as a possible “inquiry stage.” I feel I am making inroads with him. I believe he loves God and we are making progress. Driving home tonight though after today’s conversation at work, I began to worry about the possibility of him falling in love with the Catholic Church, but not wanting to change the status of his relationship, should his girlfriend stick to her guns about not getting married. I know if she were willing to get married, he would tie the knot.
My hope is that if the Lord guides him into the fold so to speak and he enters RCIA, like me, he will make the right decision about his relationship. I did. I hope you can see where I am going here. I would hate for him to convert and make no changes to his living status. My hope is that he would make a change.
I don’t want to bring all this up just yet. He knows, I know he knows what the deal is with chastity outside of marriage. He seems very spiritual, but at the same time, I don’t want to set him up for sacrilege and scandal. I wanted to get input from you guys to “ground my thoughts” about this, if that makes sense.
Thanks for your input.