Friend was turned down

I made a prayer intention earlier for my cousin, who was asking a girl out. Things didn’t turn out so well. He’s very, very, broken up about it. He told me something whispered in the back of his mind to “kill himself.” So please, pray that he finds peace of mind and that he heals up properly before he goes back to school.

Ave Maria, gratia plena,
Dominus tecum,
benedicta tu in mulieribus,
et benedictus fructus ventris tui Iesus.

Sancta Maria mater Dei,
ora pro nobis peccatoribus, nunc, et in hora mortis nostrae.

praying for your friend O Mary conceived without sin pray for us who have recouse to thee.:signofcross::crossrc::amen:

Have a chat to your mate. To be turned down by a girl is often the best thing that can happen to a young man; teaches you resilience and endows you with the knowledge that there are thousands more out there. Your friend must be very young. Buck him up and get him out.

REMEMBER, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly to thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother; to thee do I come; before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen.

Prayers said for your cousin that he find peace of mind and whispers to kill himself
diminish and disappear. If they don’t he should speak to a counselor perhaps.
St Michael the Archangel defend us in battle.

Please explain to your friend this is going to be a long line of disappointments in Life, but its not the disappointments, but rather how we go about shaping up to them,

Is he going to kill himself if he goes for a job interview and does not get it.
Is he going to kill himself if his grades are not as high as he wants.
Is he going to kill himself if he does not get into the College he wants.

Please explain we all have being rejected by a boy/girl whom we fancy but they say no, so what does killing yourself do, the girl wont come back to him, plus the Lord has told not only He has the right to take our Life not ourselves If he is Catholic recommend. That he goes to Confession and talk to a priest, plus you can help him see how you have coped with things, small and big. This is a test the Lord puts us through to see if we will come back and pray to Him. Nothing goes on in the back of one’s head like that, its just he feels desperate. The Lord might know she is not the one for him, be patient and Trust in the Lord.

He has kind of been in a state of mortal sin and is not interested in returning to the faith anytime soon. So I don’t know how much the Lord can help him. But yeah, I talked to him and helped him rationalize. And I agree with you, he is just desperate, but I also wouldn’t be surprised if the devil was trying to take advantage of his state of mind.

He told me something whispered in the back of his mind to "kill himself.

Please, give your friend this telephone number, and ask him to call it the next time he is feeling like that. ****

Feeling down after a rejection is common. Hearing voices is not. Encourage him to get some help. If he has health insurance, it might cover his talking to a counselor.

There are medications, antidepressants, which can help people who are in a suicidal state to stabilize. He might just need some temporarily or longer. Only a professional would know.

Now, I know some of these have gotten a bad reputation, as being addictive and making a person feel poorly. However, I can only tell you that they have progressively gotten better and better even within the last 20 years! A lot of the addictive ones have been taken off the market and replaced with others which are non-addictive, or less addictive and with fewer side effects.

A psychologist is the first step. He would diagnosis what is happening and get him the help he needs. If he needs medication, the psychologist would refer him to someone else for follow-up. He sounds like he needs counseling, to talk with someone about his problems. I know prayer is good, but this is one case where, in addition to prayer, I honestly think some other action would be beneficial.

St. Dymphna pray for this friend.

Hail Mary, Full of Grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blest is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen. :gopray:

***Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death


Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.


Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.


Praying that he will feel God’s love for him and will be granted the strength he needs.

Father in heaven, God of power and Lord of mercy, from Whose fullness we have received, direct our steps in our every day efforts. May the changing moods of the human heart and the limits which our failings impose on hope never blind us to You, source of every good. Faith gives us the promise of peace and makes known the demands of love. Remove any obstinance that blurs the vision of faith. Amen.

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