Hello everyone, I originally posted the following in the “Prayer Intentions” section asking people to pray that this baby be baptized when he is born and that the father of the child experience a softening of heart:
“I recently learned that a close friend of my family who is having a baby soon will not be having her child baptized. She wishes to do so, but her husband is insistent that this not be done. He believes it is “unfair” to baptize someone when they cannot give consent and he claims he resents having been baptized as an infant by his parents. If it wasn’t clear already the husband does not have much (if any) faith and I don’t know when the last time he set foot in a church was. The mother explained how important this is to her to have their child baptized and was able to get a mild concession from the father who said something along the lines of, “You may have our baby baptized but know that I am strongly against it and that I refuse to attend the baptism if it takes place!” Since he “never askes for anything” (her words) and he feels so strongly about this, she feels guilty about going against his wishes. So for the moment she has decided not to disobey her husband and is not planning to have their child baptized when he is born, but the guilt is clearly bothering her.”
I was asked if I could start a second thread on the topic somewhere else on the site so that the issue could be discussed and advice could be given. I would still appreciate your prayers though in the original thread.
Also, I should mention that though this woman and her husband are good friends of my family, I personally do not know them very well. So I do not think it would be very productive were I to directly confront either of them about this matter. In fact I think such an approach would likely solidify the father in his opinions and create more of an obstacle. Though I am certainly willing to do what I can.
Lastly, I know that what the father of this child is doing is foolish, childish, and just plain disturbing. However, if we could try to restrict our comments to being productive instead of bad mouthing someone else that’d be very much appreciated. Thanks.