I am new to this forum, but I knew as soon as I found it, that it would be a good place to ask for advice. It's about a friend of mine and it has been stressing me out a lot...
My friend "Ashley" and I have been pretty close for a few years now. I'm 20, and she's almost 16 (due to the age difference, we're sort of like sisters). Starting about a year ago, Ashley began getting into some very troubling things. For one thing, she lost her virginity to a much older "man" (so-called) and began experimenting with all sorts of sexual sins. I, admittedly, did not make my displeasure known well enough. She knew I disapproved, but I spent more time avoiding the sexual topics she was talking about because they made me uncomfortable. All I told her was that I hoped she knew what she was doing and that she was committing serious/mortal sins. She, like myself, was raised in a good Catholic family and knows what she's doing is wrong.
Recently, her new topic of choice is purporting the positives of having "friends with benefits." I told her it was impossible for people (especially women) to have casual sex without it affecting them. She told me I was sheltered and ignorant and that it was a good way to "relieve sexual tension" without getting attached to someone. Even a few months after she had one of these "friends," she feels no regret for it. In addition to all of this, she's openly bi-sexual and supports homosexual relationships.
All of this from a girl who (sadly, I am not joking) goes to communion every Sunday (at a Traditional Latin Mass no less!). She says it's ok because she goes to confession beforehand, but clearly she is not truly sorry for her sins. On top of this, she used to respect my decision to remain a virgin until marriage, but now she mocks me for it. Deep down, I know her hostility only arises from the fact that she is feeling guilty, but it still bothers me.
I really need help, because I don't feel like I can ignore this anymore. Her family (despite being devout) is sadly un-involved with her life. I went to her mom once about someone she had slept with, in confidence, and not only did she tell Ashley it was me that told, she also un-grounded her within a couple of weeks. I even proved what I said was true by sending her mom a chat transcript in which Ashley told me what she had done! Going to her parents has never done me any good....
I care very much about her and know that, deep down, she wants to do the right thing. I really wish I could help her, but every time I even gently tell her she's wrong, I get mocked and criticized. Despite the fact that I feel very strong in my convictions to remain pure, being around brings me down and tempts me. It didn't used to be so bad when she respected the way I am, but now she mocks me and tells me she's going to "fix my virginity problem" by introducing me to certain guys she knows. I laugh off most of her insults, but they chip away at me.
So, as a good Catholic friend, what do I do? Is it right for me to walk away from her? If not, what can I do to help her and avoid driving myself crazy?