I am very frustrated with the attitude of my neighbor’s husband.
I have an 11 year old daughter so this is causing me a lot of concern. First let me say that my neighbor’s husband is not a molestor.
My neighbor still keeps in close contact with her ex in-laws. They visit often to see their grandson and her youngest son-who is not biologically their grandson-call them his grandparents.
Last year her ex brother in-law was sent to prison for a year. At the time a lot of excuses was make for his actions by everyone in his family. He had molested an 11 year old girl.
The excuses were that the girl didn’t look 11, that she had been previously molested,that she dressed indecently and that she came on to him. Remember she was 11! He is in his late twenties.
He is getting out of prison in a few days. I’ve already told my neighbor that my daughter can’t play with her son when his adopted Uncle is over.She understands.
Her husband(who is no relation to these people) has begun to urge his wife to invite her ex brother in-law to their annual Christmas party, which my family was invited to attend. Her husband has said that the man served his time and should be forgiven. And that it should be safe for kids at the party because there will be so many adults.
I know that I hurt my neighbor because I told her that attend we will not attend her party. I can’t take the risk with my 11 year old daughter.
Her husband is certain that her ex brother in-laws crime was a one time act and won’t repeat it with anyone else. I don’t understand how he can know this. I don’t even understand how he can be certain that his own nine year old boy is safe with this man.
Her husband’s attitude is just very frustrating and I just need to vent with someone who is outside of the situation.
Would you trust this man around your children?