I know there’s been a million threads on couples who cohabitate, but I’m just really frustrated, so I need to vent and would like to hear others’ voices on this. The man who my DH is sponsoring for RCIA is living with his fiancee. We were told that our leader is the one to talk to him about it - so we’ve left it alone and tried to get to know them better and answer any questions they may have. We even gave a talk on marriage for RCIA. DH lent him our Good News about Sex and Marriage book and the guy said he and his fiancee are reading it and it’s very “thought provoking.” Now, an old high school friend just messaged me after about 2 yrs of not keeping in touch and she’s newly engaged and living with her fiance (a guy who she’s dated since high school and I’m not particularly fond of, but that’s not the point).
So, my dilemma is - where’s the line with loving the sinner but hating the sin? I’d love to let them babysit Matthew if we ever had a meeting to go to or wanted to go out for an hour or two - since the first couple has offered to do it for free, but talked about babysitting them at their residence. I’d love to visit my friend, but is it supporting her lifestyle if I go to her house or we go over as a couple to their house? Should we just continue inviting them to our place or go to a neutral area? What do I say? I want to support them getting married, but what do I say when they talk about stuff they do together as a cohabitating couple? It’s really awkward…and I just came back from a day visiting with my relatives and my cousin is living with her boyfriend and it’s so hard to talk to them and nod and smile when they talk about their house or things like that…
Okay, done with my rant. I’m just really sad…any suggestions?