I am so furious with my two brother-in-laws right now and I am just feeling the need to vent. One of them (who is 21) has been staying with us since July. We were helping him out since both his parents kicked him out of their house (for whatever reasons) and he needed to take some high school diploma exam. We’ve not charged him rent or even for food. Last month, another brother-in-law of mine (he’s 24 and recently out of the military), began staying with us for what was supposed to be a very short time as he was going to look for an apartment in the area. Again, we haven’t asked any money from him either. Mind you, we’re not millionaires either as my husband is enlisted in the military and I’m a full time mother.
We have a 14 month old boy and I’m 14 weeks pregnant, with a blood clot in the uterus called subchorionic hematoma, so I’m supposed to take it easy until it, hopefully, goes away. So the only thing I DO ask of the brothers is to help me out once in awhile with watching the baby while I vacuum or do some other housework. Both of them are currently unemployed and don’t wake up until noon most days.
Today, I asked the younger one when he woke up at 1 PM to look at my vacuum cleaner if it was clogged. He knew I wanted this done the day before and agreed to do so. I asked him to do it then because I needed to vacuum before putting the baby down for his nap (I still nurse him for naps) as later I would need to make dinner. Well, he continued watching his TV show, so I put the vacuum next to him by the couch. He then said, “That’s pretentious.” I had to control my anger but I did say in return that I have taken them both in my house, asking nothing in return except for them to help me out around the house with the baby since they’re home ALL day. My anger toward them (the younger one in particular) has been building up as he usually snaps when I ask him to watch the baby while I vacuum, “Didn’t you just vacuum the other day?” I vacuum three times a week since we have a shedding German Shepherd.
If they weren’t here, I’d obviously have my husband help me out with these chores since I have a bit of a high risk pregnancy, but they are here, and they don’t do anything! I told my husband what happened and he’s furious so he’s kicking them out today. They were supposed to be gone 2 weeks ago, so this is the last straw.
I am just so mad that I’m even allowing this to anger me so much. Am I overreacting? What is a Christian to do in this situation? I believe I’ve given as much as I possibly could to them but second opinions would be helpful. And, yes, I’ll be discussing this all with my Confessor on Saturday.