I feel sometimes that Catholics get so distratcted by the Church, the technicalities of its teachings, and all its happenings that they sometimes forget the whole point: exhibiting Christ's love and loving him with all our hearts.
Example: I hear all the time from the overly "pious" Catholics (the ones who I guess never saw the biblical passage about removing a certain beam from one's eye first) that under no conditions should we be "cafeteria Catholics", picking and choosing what we want to believe. That's fine, I would have no problem with that. But.....it's not that simple. Last Saturday at Confession a priest told me that if I commit a mortal sin between Confession and mass the next day, I should still receive the Eucharist as long as I resolve with all my heart to go to Confession the next week. He said: "Christ wants you to receive him." Okay, well that statement undoes 10 years of what I thought I knew about Communion and mortal sin.
Another example: I have struggled with the habit of masturbation, as many others do but don't admit (and yet they still receive Communion every Sunday without Confession). Anyway, I have brought this topic up with five priests and four of them said that since it was habitual it is not a mortal sin, that I should just keep trying to stop. One of the priests told me that it is always mortal. Whom do I believe?
Another example: I told my priest that I have been guilty of having sex in an invalid marriage (my wife and I were married in the Presbyterian Church under almost the exact same form as the Cathoilc form during a time when I was not practicing my faith in the Catholic church). I am soon getting my marriage convalidated in the RC church. Anyway, I told the priest that since my wife and I were married in a very holy and Christian ceremony, and since she agreed (and participated in) my son's Catholic baptism, I don't feel that having marital relations with her is a mortal sin while I wait for my convalidation date. But I also told him that it is not my prerogative to determine what is mortal or not, and so I confessed the sin and asked for forgiveness. He said: "if you don't understand why it is a mortal sin, then you did not commit a mortal sin." Oh, okay (???!!!!)
So I have different priests telling me different things on BASIC DOCTRINE. So here's what the "pious" Catholics will tell me in true Philistine fashion: read your CCC and you will know what is mortal and what is not. But wait a minute, I thought we weren't supposed to determine of our own accord -- and with our limited understanding -- what doctrine is implied in the CCC? We are supposed to consult the Church (i.e. our priests who presumably have sound theological training). See what I mean?