I’m 21 and in college, and have been with my bf on and off for 2 1/2 years. We’ve had issues. We live a long distance apart, I sometimes have trouble standing up to him, and he has major maturity issues. I broke up with him last May. He made all sorts of outrageous accusations, blocked his caller ID trying to get me to answer, almost went so far as to look up my new address(moved for unrelated reasons) on Peoplefinder, and generally behaved in a manner that would make me never want to get back with him.
I should have just ended contact, but in between this rancidness he would remind me of the way he was when we met when I was 18 and he was 19: Fun, caring, etc. About a month or two ago, he started to behave politely and, in my idiocy, weariness of him harassing me under the guise of being “just friends”, and loneliness I got back together with him.
He’s not acting the way he did when we broke up, but we still have many of the same issues as we did before. He pushes and pushes and I have a hard time standing up to him in the long term. He doesn’t try to control my life from 100 miles away as much like before, but it’s still a problem. Other things don’t directly affect how he treats me but make me not want him as a future mate, such as not taking responsibility when he flunks a class or gets into a car accident, or the fact that he sees nothing ethically wrong with cheating on midterms or stealing as long as he makes proper precautions not to get caught.
I could never see myself marrying him, but I’m a bit afraid to break up again.