@gospelofmatthew I hope you don’t mind me launching from some of what you’ve said here to offer some advice to seriously minded young men (primarily) but also young women. If it helps then great, but don’t take it as necessarily directed to you.
In the following “You” is the just aspects of the persona I’ve seen here.
You mentioned your success in bowling and, I think, other sports or outdoor activities. You also mentioned that you study and play three instruments, but then slightly apologised for only reading religious texts outside school and only playing religious music.
These are characteristics which could and should make you attractive to many girls! Not all of course, but then that’s not our aim, as you have said yourself.
Just as different men look for different things in a woman, different women look for different things in a man (duh!). Intellectual women will, in general, be attracted to intellectual men because they want someone they can talk to, and who is also interested in their reading and their ideas. An interest in intellectual activities usually goes with an interest in the arts. Classical musicians usually marry other classical musicians, and date them, cheat with them, "party " with them, etc…etc… My (male) singing teacher married a statistician.
Both sexes make the mistake of being allured by someone who is not appropriate for them, but you can’t help that (apart from trying to avoid it yourself!, and we’ve all been there and done that). (Thankyou @PetraG for post #350).
The movie “The Imitation Game” (2015) showed Alan Turing (b 1912), a brilliant mathematician but social misfit, awkwardly romancing an intellectually inclined woman and winning her! The relationship eventually failed due to Turing’s homosexuality rather than his personality. She even said she had guessed his sexuality and would cope with it because they had a “meeting of minds”. I’ve checked the true life story and this is mostly accurate (of course, the woman didn’t have the superstar looks). It helped Turing that he was outstanding in his field, and had strong masculine traits of courage, leadership and resolution (to help Britain win the war).
The very things you’ve found off-putting to women will, in the end and probably not before long, be very desirable assets. Be the very best you can be at things which fascinate you and follow your own natural inclinations. If religious music is your main interest now then burrow down that path. This is how we achieve - by focus. Women roll their eyes at obsessive men but they also like them and marry them. Within reason, as I will discuss.
I had a friend who, as a young man, displayed obsessive interests. For some time he single mindedly pursued an interest in the music of Wagner (culminating in a trip to Bayreuth for the annual Ring cycle, dressed like a hobo in the midst of European high society!). Later he became obsessed with the field of statistics. He didn’t settle down quickly, but in his thirties he became an academic statistician.