Jumping in here to reply to this:
I think you could actually get something from the “jerky party animal guys”. I’m not saying turn into them, but watch what works. Typically, they’re very social. They’re fun. They don’t take themselves too seriously. They’re outgoing.
Now, that’s not having “all the girls drop right in front of them”.
Does your college have a counselor? I think you could benefit speaking to them about how to find some enjoyment in your time there.
Sometimes, you just have to make yourself socialise a little. And may I say, it sounds as though you’re putting far too much pressure on yourself to meet someone. For now I think you should concentrate on your friends, build your friendships with them back up, socialise regularly. And then move forward.
This made me smile, because it reminds me of the same thoughts I used to have at college. I found it quite hard to meet people initially with the same interests as me, who were also introverted like me. When I did, I used to ask them things like “Did you go out this event last week?” and they’d say “No, I prefer to stay in my room”. And ironically I realised that the reason I found it difficult to meet others with similar interests is because we all had the similar interest of staying in our rooms away from people.
Can I ask if you have some kind of student’s union? Or an organisation that puts on events for students - apologies, I’m not in the US so I don’t know how colleges work exactly. But my own student’s union had a policy of running non-alcoholic events as well. If you have an organisation like that, it may be well worth dropping them an email to ask if they have any non-alcoholic events.