Well, you certainly did warn us:
I’ve never been the most ‘charitable’ person. I have been told that I have an abrasive personality and I often wind up hurting people’s feelings without meaning to.
Glad to see you have this self-awareness!
My Dear Fellicia , I am glad you like hippie music. My Mother and Father do as well. It is my personal opinion that it has no place in church.
Indeed. It is your PERSONAL opinion. By way of full disclosure, it is also MY personal opinion. I despise the “hippie” music. That said, there is nothing illicit or wrong about hymns that have a modern or contemporary sound. While we may prefer Bach to Haugen, it still comes down to personal preference.
I believe that I explained exactly why I feel dirty when I leave mass. It most certainly was not because of a guitar. If you would care to examine the sentence structure it plainly explains that my dirty feeling is from my anger not a guitar.
I have been “forced” due to health problems to attend a parish that also employs a “hippie” group - the singer looks like John Denver. You are correct that it is MY SELF RIGHTEOUS ANGER that ruins the Mass for me. I allow my own personal preferences to interfere with my participation in the Mass. It is a revelatory moment when one recognizes the horrid thoughts going through ones mind during the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass.
I appreciate your heartfelt sentiment in defense of the lowly guitar and other instruments. I truly do. You seem to be a very enlightened woman and so, please forgive me when I say this, I am shocked that you fail to recognize or respect the fact that **I do not enjoy **the guitar or the hippie style music played at my church.
But it’s not about our personal “enjoyment” is it? While some may find it more uplifting to hear the great chorale music of the Classical period during Mass, our full participation should not be contingent upon what music is playing.
It has become a distraction for me in the worship of Our Lord. I take my faith very seriously, so this is a real problem.
Because you ALLOW it to cause distraction, just as I do, at times. Anything can be a distraction in Mass - too many children crying, inappropriate attire, people talking, cell phones going off, etc. WE make the choice to remain centered on the mystery of the Mass.
A very serious issue, quite unlike being bothered by blue nail polish (which is ugly, but feh. To each their own) If I wanted to be entertained, there are any number of festivals near my home that I may partake of.
But you are contradicting yourself here - first you say you don’t “enjoy” hippie music and you follow that by saying you don’t want to be entertained. You do - it’s just that your idea of entertainment includes a different style of music.
Were I in a church in Africa or India, I might expect things to be a little different. And now this music is endangering the chance that my husband, an agnostic/former pagan, might turn away from the church-because they played hippie music.
It is impossible that the style of music would be the cause of anyone turning away from the Church. To be blunt, that’s just hooey. If faith is hinging on “personal opinion”, then perhaps you might benefit from speaking to your priest about how to overcome this stumbling block.
I suppose it could give out sacred music. It falls short on my ears, though. I don’t think badly of you for your apparent like of the instrument. I hate it though (in church). And you don’t get to castigate me for it because you feel otherwise.
Unfortunately, you don’t get to castigate your priest or the parish because they feel differently than you.
Your church does not have to change anything. It will always be the church and nothing will prevail against it. I listen to people all the time saying the church must change or it will die out. Bull. She will no longer be the church IF she changes.
I’ve been around a LONG time - before VII. This “hippie” music has been in our Churches for almost 35 years now. I think our Church will prevail over the guitar.
I knew one of you would come out of the woodwork if I mentioned this. You seem to take it as a personal affront. It is MY opinion. Respect that.
And you should respect your parish.
I am so very pleased that you brought ‘your generation’ into this. I have several issues with ‘your generation’. Your need to take wonderful, beautiful traditions and rip them apart puzzles me to no end. Instead of creating something new, you have a desire to destroy everything you see as ‘old’. Why? Leave it alone and go start something fresh.
Is this the part where you show your “abrasive” side?
You are not bound to remain at a Parish where the music offends your sensibilities. But it sounds like your husband has made a choice and it may be that you both will have to learn to overcome your anger issues. I also observed by your statements that your husband prefers this parish because:
He feels a connection to Fr at this church and refuses to accept that he might also connect with another priest. They were both in Kuwait when we went over the first time (Iraq), both are Falcons fans, etc.
IMO, these are rather superficial reasons for staying with a Parish you so clearly dislike. Yet, your husband would rather “suffer” through guitar Masses because he and Father like the same team?
Find another Parish or find peace at the one you have chosen.