One of the problems is age-related. Those of us who are older and still working tend to lose more of our relatives, friends, and acquaintances to death, and therefore, have more funerals to attend.
And many of us work weekends, so having funerals on weekends doesn’t make a difference.
And many of us work at jobs where our absence for even a few hours leaves our work associates with too much work to finish in a regular workday. In other words, all of us are needed to handle the workload, and funerals are not something that the Supervisor can plan for when she is making out the work schedule and assignments. It truly does create a hardship for our co-workers.
At least once a week, someone I know dies. I could go to a visitation/funeral once a week!
Also, a visitation often takes a LOT of time! We recently had a friend die, and when I went to the visitation (which was scheduled for 4 hours!), the line was out the door and snaking around the building, and there was a line of cars down the street for several blocks waiting to get into the funeral home parking lot! I knew that everyone in the line would spend at least a few minutes with the bereaved family, not just say, “I’m so sorry” and move on.
I ended up turning around and going home because I simply could not spare 4 hours, and I can’t stand for that long, especially outdoors in November in Northern Illinois!
I couldn’t attend the funeral because it was held during a workday.
So I sent a card to the family member we know best.