My h2b and I have made our engagement (finally) official, whilst my mum and dad are happy - although no-one will ever be good enough for there little girl - his parents are as expected not so happy!
His mothers response was ’ your too young’ ‘why are you doing this to me’ ‘she wants to steal you from us’ ‘you know what happened to your father when he married young’ ‘you wont be able to divorce her’ ‘shes forced you into this’ and ‘you know i dont like her’. This was all expected but she couldnt be further from the truth I make my h2b call her on a regular basis - i have picked al the birthday, mothers day, christmas cards and gift that she has recieved for the past 5 years. We have been together for 5 years this IS the next step!!! We are both 21 we both have good jobs and we love each other! I havent even been in the same room as her in three years because of the abuse I recieved and the lies she spread about me!!!
His dad divorced his first wife after meeting is mom and they got married in their late thirties and h2b is their only child together though his father has one from his previous marriage who is 16 years older than h2b.
They are protestant but not practicing but her family has big masonic tyes!
Anyhow, he told her that that was that and it was going to happen! Today we visited his moms mom to give her the news his mom had just left and we discovered that his mom hadnt even told her about the engagement when h2b called her up on it she refused to acknowledge the engagement or anything to do with us and changed the subject!!!
This is the same woman who rang his phone the other day - he was driving so I answered - when I asked who it was she said ‘Mrs X’ not h2bs mom or mildred!!!
Her behaviour is just s crazy I dont even have a name I am ‘that girl’ - Ive always been polite when I have seen her and I dont want h2b to not see his parents but she keeps pushing him further away all she ever does is complain the stuff I have supposedly done is ludicrous she even said Id lied about my name!!!
I dont know what to do h2b doesnt want her at the weding but Im sure hell regret it if he doesnt invite her! At this rate she probably wont come but still!!! Shes going to miss out on so much if shes not careful! But I havent got a clue how to explain this to her! Neither her nor her husband are young they had chris in their forties and are both in their sixties now so its crazy!