I am due to marry my boyfriend of (nearly) 5 years - we started dating when we were 16 in Sixth Form.
His mother pretty much hated me from the moment Chris went home and told her he ‘had a girlfriend’. She accuses me of being a liar, wh*re, manipulator and ‘up myself’. She has never once reffered to me by name when I used to go round she basically just ignored me and when I wasnt their she called me amongst other things ‘that girl’ and ‘princess’. I havent spoken to either of his parents for three years after a big bust up where his father grabbed the phone of chris and told me that i had ruined their family.
I have always been polite when I have went round and I am still polite if we pass each other or when I call the house on the few occasions chris has gone home. I rang up one christmas morning and asked to speak to chris she said nothing she just put the phone on the table and told chris that ‘someeone’ was on the phone.
I understand that he is her only child etc etc but I find her attitude disgusting, Chris now sees them maybe once a quarter which I think is really sad for a 21 yr old lad. He rarely sees them because their is always a row whenever he goes back - he has now got his own house having just finished uni.
I dont really know what I have done to upset her but I obviously have but I am going to marry her son and this will happen with or without her but I would prefer if we could reach some sort of compromise. Chris really just wants to stick up for me and always has despite her behaviour a couple of years ago she slapped him and told him ‘life would have been better if it had just been me and your dad’.
His dad knows that we will be getting married his mum does not know yet his dad doesnt want to tell her or get chris to tell her which seems silly. We are going to be announcing the engagement at my 21st birthday party and she will obv find out then.
I would really like to talk to her but I dont know how to go about this because as you can tell their is a lot of animosity.