I’m sorry that my first post is of such a nature as this, but this question has been on my mind as a concerned Catholic newlywed.
My DH and I are newly married (the nuptial mass was three weeks ago) and both of us are practicing Catholics. Neither of us had ever engaged in any sexual activity before our wedding night, and for me it was actually very painful. My DH and I have been trying to make it such that I can gain pleasure from intercourse to make it a fuller experience for both of us. However, we are currently practicing NFP to postpone pregnancy and I have very long “fertile”/phase 2 periods (up to 19 days). Because of this, my DH said that it would be OK if we explored/pleasured each other manually for a few weeks (during the fertile time) at the start of our marriage just to learn more about our bodies until it would be prudent to have intercourse again and so that we feel more comfortable in this intimate time.
So my question is this: What do you think? Is a few weeks of “experimenting” morally acceptable (in the eyes of the Church) for newly wed couples as long as it does not replace, but is meant to enhance intended intimate experiences?
Thank you for your consideration.