Need some help with this. My sister-in-law sent my wife and I the following from the Dignity website and I’m not sure if I responded appopriately.
Dignity website: "9. Can someone be involved in a lesbian or gay relationship and still be a faithful Catholic?
Certainly yes, not as a matter of public Church teaching but only as a matter of conscience, only as a matter of personal application of the whole of Catholic teaching to their particular case. In 1975 the Vatican published a Declaration on Certain Questions Concerning Sexual Ethics. One of those questions was homosexuality. A principal author of that document was Fr. Jan Visser, C.Ss.R. In an interview published in the January 30, 1976, edition of L’Europa, he said: “When one is dealing with people who are so deeply homosexual that they will be in serious personal and perhaps social trouble unless they attain a steady partnership within their homosexual lives, one can recommend them to seek such a partnership, and one accepts this relationship as the best they can do in their present situation.” One of the very men who formulated the Vatican teaching that homogenital acts are wrong allows that in certain individual cases one may not only permit but even recommend a homosexual relationship."
My response is to say something like: “That is interesting. I’m not sure how to react to it initially, as I don’t know the context or anything. I would guess that, if this is legitimate, in order to have it recommended, a person would have to receive pastoral counseling on the matter. I’m not sure if it would be something that could be determined by the individual conscience as the answer suggests. Please don’t take that as simple fundamentalist Catholicism. I just want to get it straight from the horse’s mouth if you know what I mean. Interview transcripts are certainly not anything official and hence, I wouldn’t want to assume anything.”
Any thoughts on this Dignity quote? My sister-in-law is in a relationship and I need to respond in a loving, but truthful way.