I think the best way to look at it is “healthy competition.” When I was playing non-professional sports, especially basketball, the goal was to be the best you could be. Just recognize that sometimes, you may not be the better player. Many people in sports work to be the best so they can ‘help lead their team’ to victory, not to get even. The right thing to do is to say “good game” to the other guy even if you lost. In pro sports, the right response to a loss is to congratulate the other team for winning a game ‘fair and square,’ and looking to improve yourself and encourage ‘your team’ to play better. Some of us are just faster or a little stronger or just need to work on developing any areas where we are lacking. Once we are convinced we are doing our best then that’s the best we can do.
In competitions, there can only be one individual who gets the gold, or one team that wins the playoffs. Individual effort combined with teamwork should be the goal, not getting even.
Hope this helps,