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Specific example? Here's one of many: Singles are instructed to wear their Sunday best, in some cases spending upwards of $300-$500 at department store for a nice sport coat and pants that will probably be never worn again after that first date. No jeans, no shirts, no t-shirts. Absolutely, necessarily has to be the finest in high fashion because if the guy looks like a cheapskate, that's a red flag for women.
Tell me, please: How is that not deception? How is that not lying? Why can't singles go on a first date with whatever they're comfortable wearing? The relationship starts, the guy begins to wear t-shirts, jeans, shorts, and the woman starts to wonder, "Oh, gee, so this guy's a slob?" First impressions are inherently and inescapably deceptive.
Getting married is easier said than done.
I'd say they should wear what they normally would when hanging around. What you describe is not even a question of cash as it is a whole different style or level of care. However, one would generally dress up a bit for a social occasion and what people wear around the house is sometimes more casual than what they wear outside casually--same as they will dress up a little for the guests. Some people will also drop the formality level a notch only when they've known their company for a while, e.g. it may take a while before one lawyer sees another not in a suit. I don't know about price levels on clothes in the US, but $500 for something that isn't office or evening wear sounds rather extreme, as in trying to appear wealthy or something. You could buy a new Hugo Boss suit for $500 in local currency here.