I been dating this man for 2 years now, I moved to a new area for a position and I met him through Catholic Match a week after moving. At first he was very attentive, he help me unpack my boxes, he would come over every evening and cook together. My first impression was that he was mature and honest. I am also very close to my family and I visit them every weekend. But since dating him, he gives me a hard time and is aggressive because I visit my family too much. He said I am gone every weekend, which in reality is on Sundays only. He wants to spend all his time with me. He shouts and curses at me saying is my fault he is angry and frustrated because he is putting all the effort on the relationship and not me. I feel isolated, I have no friends in the area. I tell him that and he saids is my fault for not making friends or going to church to meet people. But when I do it, he is passive aggressive because I went instead of spending time with him.
I love going to the gym, but he forces me to go with him, and if don’t he is very passive aggressive and gives me the silent treatment. He recently got an argument with his mom because she helps her mentally ill sister. He blocked his mom, and took everything down in his house that is Catholic and he said he doesn’t want to go to church or do Catholic stuff because that is what his mom does.
I have tried leaving him, but I feel I can’t. I’m in my mid 30s, in my 20s I did not had luck finding a good man, let alone in my 30s. Starting over I just feel like a failure, but staying in this relationship has made me feel miserable, depressed, anxious, I don’t take care of myself, he has make me cried 3 times this week. On the next day he acts like nothing happens and is sweet and nice with me. But I feel I so attach I feel I am going crazy if I leave him. I have applied for jobs and got offers, but I always end up turning them down because I am afraid of leaving the guy. I have never ever though I was going to be in this situation. I have no support here, because my family lives far away.
Also I am not happy at my job either, I feel I am in a toxic work environment where is all about politics and not about good work or talent.
Please pray for me that I find a new job back home and able to free myself of this relationship. Also if anyone that was in my position can share their experience that can help too.
Thank you God bless!