I am in a relationship with a wonderful man whom I love dearly, and am hoping to get suggestions to help him with a particular struggle of his. For many years he has been dealing with the sin of masturbation, and he had begun to really make progress with it recently. He has been going to confession weekly and is sleeping on the floor to discipline himself. The other day, however, he backslid. I am offering up everything I can for him (prayer, fasting, and I’m sleeping on the floor as well), but I am wondering if there is anything else he or I could do? He really hates the attachment he has to this sin, and wants it desperately out of his life, but is feeling discouraged and wondering if it is possible to quit.
May the love of Our Father permeate his heart!
Just a few suggestions, that I’ve found helpful myself.
Laugh, laugh and laugh.
Don’t let this get him down! The Lord is understanding, and knows his heart. Im confident the Lord would be well pleased with his efforts to overcome.
In regular confession, this dearly helps overcome the addiction, however, can I encourage, if he is not already doing so; to make sure he says the same priest, ie - a confessor or perhaps even a spiritual director who can help him work through these issues?
Also, if he is in the time of temptation, encourage him to let you hold him accountable, or perhaps a close male friend.
Lastly, he should journal and try and ascertain the root causes of these problems. Often they are loneliness, tiredness, anxiety and stress.
Doing all this will increase his ability to overcome this “thorn in the flesh”.