Hi I was wondering if any of you could give me your perspective on the family I am going to describe. I may not even be able to describe things all too clearly so I apologize if that’s the case :o. And if anything I say sounds the least bit judgemental I sincerely apologize because that’s not my intent. I am just trying to make sense of things.
(Oh and this isn’t necessarily my first post. I am a “junior member” posting under a new name so as to stay as anonymous as possible. )
Anyway, so there’s this Catholic family… I am not super close with them but I have spent some time with them and have learned some valuable things from them. I am most acquainted with one of the sons. We are both in our early 20s. I have met up with him at church a few times, we ate together once, we’ve prayed together, and had some nice discussions related to spiritual matters and the faith. I have met his family a couple times, especially last night I spent some time with them at their home. For the most part, it really seems as though this family is quite devout. They are very faithful to God and His Church
Unfortunately, something just doesn’t seem quite right otherwise. This family seems to be a little disconnected, maybe dysfunctional. They seem awkward in their interactions with others. I’ve seen them at Sunday Mass once and they were kind of dispersed throughout the church. Now I don’t know if it is maybe just my perception of things, but to me it only seems normal for a family, especially when they live together, to sit together at church. There seems to be a lack of structure. A few of them tend to stay up late on a regular basis, usually arguing about certain kinds of things related to the faith or philosophy. They were even “debating” last night about whether it is better to pray the rosary or the chaplet of Divine Mercy. I know that these aren’t bad things to talk about, but I get the vibe that they are a little too obsessed because the son whom I talk to the most has told me that they do this all the time like it’s routine. This particular son has also mentioned to me that part of the reason he wants to become a monk is so he can get away from the household he lives in. He says it gets too stressful. I know he sort of suffers from anxiety which I can understand because I do in some ways as well. But it makes me wonder when a person says something like that.
This family comprises of mom, 4 brothers, and a sister. I know that their dad lives in another state (they’re divorced) and that my friend has mentioned a step dad who no longer lives with them. He has also told me that his mom sort of suffers from bipolar disorder.
These people are very nice and kind and genuinely want to serve God. I suppose my question is, should I be concerned about any of this? Would it be okay to continue spending time with them, do you think?
Thank you for your time